“To the person who does not know where she or he wants to go, there is no favorable wind.” Seneca, 65 CE, Rome
As with every morning in the 21-Day Challenge, please complete your Morning Purpose Ritual, and re-write your purpose statement.
Initiate Purpose Launch Sequence Countdown
This second module is designed to help you create the escape velocity to break patterns and habits that no longer serve your life’s purpose. A good way to think of it is that you’re pulling back a rubber band or a sling shot, using all of the strength you can muster in the opposite direction of your life’s purpose to create the necessary force and escape velocity that will launch you into a new direction; a cohesive, powerful vector created by your life’s purpose.
To endure and hold this tension requires strength and fortitude, as this will not be a pleasant process. Pulling this sling shot back will entail looking at all the areas of your life that aren’t working well. You’ll keep drawing this sling shot back today and for the remainder of this module over the next two days. After day 6, there is a huge release, a rapid firing where you let go of the rubber band and start creating a unified and aligned life of purpose. So bear with the process, and double down on your resolve today, tomorrow and the next. Please get support if necessary and check-in with your fellow Challengers on any resistance that is coming up for you.
Purpose Challenge Map Exercise
This exercise is designed to give you a comprehensive overview of your life; the extent to which your life is driven by and aligned with purpose, and the extent to which it’s not. You will examine each of the 7 key areas of your life (health, career, romance, family, community, spirituality / contemplation, finance). Once complete you’ll have a bird’s-eye view of your life and all the areas that can improve by developing a deeper relationship with your life’s purpose.
For each life area, you’ll write 1-5 words or key phrases that describe what is going well in that area, e.g. Career: good work friends, challenging tasks, steady paycheck. You’ll then write 1-5 words or key phrases on what isn’t going well, e.g. Career: my job makes the world a worse place, bureaucracy, face time, long commute in my car. Be thorough! The more comprehensive you are, the more certain you’ll feel that a big shift towards your life’s purpose is necessary.
Finally, you’ll rank each area with a score that describes how aligned with and/or supportive of your life's purpose that particular area is, on a scale of 1 to 10. For example, in the Career area, 10 is a score that could describe a career that is the full expression of your worldview, where you feel creatively self-expressed, you work with people you love and learn from, are more than adequately compensated, have an effortless, enjoyable or non-existent commute, and 1 being a score that describes being underpaid, underemployed, underappreciated, not self-expressed, not enjoying your co-workers, working towards a goal you don’t resonate with, long commute, not challenged, etc.
All you’ll need is your notebook and a pen. Please make 4 columns with these column headings. Once you’re finished with each life area, draw a horizontal line and move down the page until you have each of the 7 key life areas detailed and evaluated.
Area: What’s Going Well |What’s Not | Purpose Alignment Score:
With this map now complete you have an idea of how your life actually is right now, today. This map represents the extent to which your life expresses your purpose. It doesn’t matter if your average score is a 1 or a 10, what matters is that you now know more than you did before, and are more empowered to make changes because you have all the data. Every fully aligned purposeful life, every “10”, was once a 1. Now that you have your map in hand, you have a solid idea of what not living in connection to your life’s purpose is costing you.
A Note on Your Critic
Understandably this can bring up a great deal of emotions and self-judgment, e.g. “I suck”, “I’m a screw-up”, etc. Especially when compared with the Perfect Day Exercise (from Day 2), you’re probably seeing how much difference there is between your actual life and your Perfect Day. Just know that these judgments are normal AND they only represent one tiny part of who you are - your personal Critic (you have many more parts, including a soul - that part of you that knows your life’s purpose). In Module 4, you’ll get to meet your Critic, understand her or him, and develop tools to work with that critical voice. Until that point, you’ll need to ask for support if you’re feeling stuck, resistant or finding ways to avoid doing these exercises.
Moving From Awareness to Action
As mentioned, these exercises are crafted intentionally to create this tension, pulling back the sling-shot, between who you are at the deepest level (and what life looks like when you get to be fully yourself and self-expressed, in every key area) and what your life actually looks and feels like. Yes, you’re reading this correctly - this exercise is intended to make you emotionally present to the cost of living life without a deep alignment with your purpose. It is this emotional cost and the contrast between it and the future of a purpose-aligned life that is intended to drive you, to impel you to finish the Challenge.
Now you know what is at stake for you in the Purpose Challenge. So please have patience, know that this is a crucial and healthy part of the growth, healing and purpose-discovery process. Please share your emotions, self-judgments and experience with this exercise with your fellow Challengers, and you’ll soon see that you are not alone, that everyone is feeling this in some way, right now.
Your experience in the Challenge will get better, I promise you, however, not before it gets worse. The next two exercises will involve you taking this awareness of the present, and creating a future life and planet that does not include your life’s purpose. From this place, you’ll see that you have no other option, than to find and live your life’s purpose, and that your well-being and of those you care about is at stake as well.
To move this critic / truth-telling energy around, please check out this video below from Alex Iglecia.