"For one to conquer oneself is the first and noblest of all victories." Plato, 347 BCE, Athens, Greece
As with every day of the Purpose Challenge, please perform your Morning Purpose Ritual.
Now that you have a solid understanding of your Critic, Skeptic and Victim, the arrows-in, negative self-talk, and arrows-out negative world-talk, we’re going to meet the arrows-up, risk aversion-talk. This arrows-up talk has the same effect as the arrows-in and arrows-out, it creates another reason to not live your life’s purpose, or to take any risks whatsoever. Today you’ll meet the two types of arrows-up voices, your Image Consultant and Risk Manager.
These two prevent you from loss (real or psychological), by telling you can’t do things, by pointing it’s arrows upward at the possibility of loss, telling you, you cannot do this thing because if you fail at your life’s purpose, you will lose your reputation (Image Consultant) and wealth/career (Risk Manager). It says people get hurt when they take risks, they get shot down, derided, fired, ridiculed, bankrupted, etc.
Now, a healthy Image Consultant and Risk Manager says, “Your professional reputation and financial security is important to your well-being, so your purpose must move forward in a way that honors your relationships and financial commitments. Since I love you, I don’t want to see you lose what you have worked so hard for, be laughed at or lose the professional and personal relationships that are important to you. So let’s give mindful consideration to how we deploy and message our purpose, and roll out our new purposeful life.”
An un-integrated Image Consultant and Risk Manager will say, “Loss is intolerable and self-expression is an unqualified evil. You cannot be yourself, take any risks, or in any way live your purpose, because the risk of failure is too great and others will abandon you, so don’t even try to find your purpose, don’t follow your dreams and stay small right where you are. Always obey me, because without me you will act foolish and lose everything. You need me to survive, and you need me to keep you small, stuck, inert.” See the difference there? The healthy Image Consultant and Risk Manager guides you to act on your purpose from a place of consideration and pragmatism, whereas the un-integrated IC/RM, just fills you with social and financial doomsday talk that keeps you from taking action towards the life you want.
So, you are going choose one of the two to interview. Which voice is most loud for you? Are you more afraid of looking bad? Or losing what you have? Pick one to interview and then begin the process of discovery, understanding and integrating the voice into your life of purpose. This interview is in three parts: 1. Discovery, 2. Understanding, 3. Integration. You’ll ask your IC/RM each of these questions, directly, as though speaking to someone on the other side of the table.
Congratulations! Integrating your various parts is the key to removing limiting beliefs and living purposefully. By continuing this integration process, you’ll have a fully cataloged and ordered psyche, a wide open space to live your life’s purpose, because you now have the tools to work with fear and resistance. This exercise is just the beginning of knowing and integrating your parts into a purposeful whole. It takes years, truly, but at least now you know who is responsible for the arrows-in, arrows-out and arrows-up talk. Now you have the relationship in place to converse with all of your parts, to inquire and negotiate.
With the space more clear, your can start to act from soul, so please check out this BONUS video with Claire Sierra on tapping into your higher guidance.