“If you bring forth what is within you, what is within you, will save you. If you do not bring forth what is within you, what you do not bring forth will destroy you.” Jesus Christ
As with every day of the Purpose Challenge, please perform your Morning Purpose Ritual.
Today you begin a new module, where you will cultivate the tools to understand your resistance, by a creating map of your personality, comprised of all the key parts of your ego structure. These exercises are based on the ground-breaking work of Tim Kelley’s purpose manual “True Purpose”, which relies heavily on the previous work of the Voice-Dialogue method and the Internal Family Systems Model (Schwartz, 1995). Tim’s work helps you understand the genesis story of every unique piece of your personality; how you became who you are and begin to integrate the various pieces of yourself into a cohesive ego structure that has at its core, your life’s purpose.
As mentioned, getting your purpose statement is only 10% of the journey. The rest of the journey is in blasting through resistance by discovering its source, understanding its reasoning and then realigning it with your life of purpose.
You’ll begin this process (truly a lifelong process) with your Critic, that voice that you’ve met a number of times in this course. In this exercise, you’re going to reveal the true nature of your Critic and the role it plays in your life. The Critic is defined as “arrows in”, which means your Critic prevents you from danger (real or psychological), by telling you you can’t do things, by pointing it’s arrows inward, literally telling you, you cannot do this thing, because you are incapable of the task or unworthy of the rewards.
Now, a healthy Critic says, “You cannot run fast enough to beat the cross-walk signal. If you try, you will get hit by a car, and since I love you, I don’t want to see that happen. So stand right here and wait for the next signal.” An un-integrated Critic will say, “You cannot have a life of vitality, abundance and love, because you are undeserving of it and you don’t have what it takes to get it, so don’t find your purpose, don’t follow your dreams and stay small right where you are. Always obey me, because you’re not good enough to achieve the life you want. You need me to survive, and you need me to keep you small, stuck, inert.” See the difference here? The healthy Critic keeps you physically safe in a way that serves your well-being and purpose, whereas the un-integrated Critic just fills you with negative self-talk that keeps you from taking action towards the life you want.
So, you are going to interview your Critic and begin the process of integrating your Critic into your life of purpose. This interview is in three parts: 1. Discovery 2. Understanding 3. Integration. You’ll ask your Critic each of these questions, directly, as though speaking to someone on the other side of the table.
Please watch this BONUS video from Embodiment Guru, Alex Iglecia, on commitment and resistance.